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Dec 25

It’s A Wonderful Life is now considered the most inspirational American movie of all time, yet when it was released it was considered a box office flop.

It took around forty years for people to really “get it”.

As Christmas rolls around the globe, I want you to consider an opportunity.

The opportunity for each and every person on the planet to have an enlightenment experience.

The kind of experience people trek thousands of miles to Tibet for. The moment an experienced yogi would cite as profound. An awakening. And all available from a single weekend experience.

And a prediction…

Sooner or later, what I am about to tell you will be considered the most inspirational material of all time.

In 1971 a man named Werner Erhard created a seminar based large group awareness training called EST.

What you may not be aware of some thirty eight years later, the experience is still available in a similar training offered by Landmark Education.

The impact of the lives of the people who participate is profound.

Having recently reviewed the course, I now realise the huge positive impact originally participating in 1999 had on my life.

Apart from being born, 4:52pm on day three of the Landmark Forum is ongoingly the most important moment in my life.

I have access to living a life I love. And I love my life because I love my life.

My own book is based on principles I learned indirectly from Werner Erhard.

More interesting, my entire life is influenced by him and so is yours.

As the originator of the conversation about transformation and making a difference, almost everything these days hinges on these premises.

Virtually every conversation inside personal development and self-realisation lives in the idea we are perfect the way we are, when we remove our issues.

The way we are, AND the way we are not…

But how do we remove issues which would take a life time to evolve beyond?

Simply by removing our sense of self. The Ogre. Like Yoga. There be monsters between you and God!

So here is a Christmas gift to you. Let me take you in a direction by inviting you into a conversation.

For the twelve days of Christmas, I am giving away a free eBook download of my book The Logic Of Attraction (normally £9).

You can download it here:

http://LogicOfAttraction.com/MerryChristmas/LOA_XMASFREE.pdf

The password is: XMASFREE

And to accompany the book I am giving away an audio meditation, recorded by the fabulous Rich Hilton, which compliments an exercise in consciousness in the book.

All you have to do is sign up for the newsletter to receive it.

If you like what you get, comment below.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

mark ty wharton

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Dec 21

In a recent phone call I explained “before I did the Landmark Forum my thoughts occurred like I was walking down Oxford Street with a crowd bustling around me.

Now I have done the Landmark Forum I have an experience of thoughts occurring as if in a vast cavernous library”.

It is silent in my head right now.

From time to time I have a thought and it’s like “whoa, who was that?” or just “shhhhhhhhhhhh, you’re spoiling the silence”.

It’s so much fun in my head right now, in sharp contrast to the racing negative thoughts that were dominating my life just weeks ago.

If you attend an introduction evening for the Landmark Forum, you will learn an exercise. The seminar leader will draw a big pie on a whiteboard and divide it up. He talks about “What you don’t know, you don’t know”.

If I turn that on its head for a moment, I have learned I didn’t know that I didn’t know what other people are thinking.

I would have opinions about why other people did stuff. A whole managery of information about reasons for this and that buzzing in my head. Reasons for reasons for reasons.

Having realised it serves no purpose whatever to do it, my brain just switched the function off. Gone!

The result, almost total silence.

I guess in the seventies, the East would have sold this “state” or “space” to LSD culture as enlightenment.

In 2010 Landmark’s upsell of Werner Erhard’s original EST delivers something else.

If Bhudda were alive today :-)

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

mark ty wharton

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Nov 17
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Why are we here?
My interest in the paranormal and self-development spans four decades. My last book was a creative ‘outside the box’ look at The Law Of Attraction.

A back pocket brain teaser which contains practical exercises, humorous anecdotes on working with Duran Duran, advice on finding LOVE which ultimately will have taken you on a journey of discovery.

Do you think when I put down my pen, I stopped thinking?

Actually I did…

And, I am writing a new book!

If you can’t wait to read it, you might just want to ‘listen’ to what I have to say!

Book me to talk at your event about perception and reality today
Understanding The Nature Of Reality

The talk?
Where would you like to explore the nature of reality?

Intrigued?

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Aug 05

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I am sitting in the hairdresser with my daughter.
There is an atmosphere in here.
Feel good music plays in the background, a track from the eighties that would have been on the radio when I was a few years older than Cloud is now.

And overlaying that the hubbub of friendly chatter.
The clack of a flip flop.
The sweeping of a broom.
The building seems silent, content.

Nothing terrible has happened here as far as I can tell.
Cloud is sitting in a shower of hair.
Occassionally we exchange glances.
The hair dresser talks of feathers, razors and blends.

After a while I read ‘Woman’s Own’ and catch up on the plot of Eastenders.
What I feel is that it is hard to occupy my mind with anything serious here for more than a few seconds.
I could not work through, or solve a problem in this atmosphere by any means.

This is a place where women escape.
While this place is about defining looks, it is all about feelings or the plain simple lack of meaningful thought.
So what am I picking up.

In general, a group of people who seem happy with their lives.
People willing to let conversation flow where it needs to go.
Like a bubbling brook.
Clear, sparkling, fresh, bright.

She can speak Spanish.
Do you.
When did you find out.
Aww.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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May 26

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Test this notion.
Trust me.
Try it for a day and see what happens.

People talk drivel.
When you stop and listen to what people have to say, they talk a load of nonsense.
In general people don’t listen much either.
It is entirely possible to have a conversation with someone without exchanging a single piece of information.
And it is also possible to have a conversation where one person is talking about one thing and the other, another.
Where there is no actual interaction at all.

Then there is ambiguity and assumption.
People often think they are in agreement about something when they are not.
In complex interactions such as romantic or working partnerships they may barely have discussed the basic issues that form the bonds of relationship.
So from now until my next blog, an exercise, a game – should you wish to take part.

Start listening.
Make a mental note of all the times a conversation makes no sense, or has no point or meaning.
Start to think about the basic issues you are not communicating verbally.
Start to consider there may be more to communication than just words.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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May 19

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Apologising for wrong doing and acknowledging people for the part they played in my life have to be two of the most powerful exercises I have done to date.
If done properly they bring about massive change, both for myself, as the person making the apology or acknowledgement and for the person on the receiving end.

You’ve probably heard the phrase “Oh, he’ll never change” and some people choose not to.
Some people choose to repeat lessons over and over until they are proficient at every detail; until the way of being is so ingrained in their character that it gets carved on there gravestone.

I however choose to change. I also choose to let people know I can and have changed. These exercises, for me, are one way to continue to do that.

If you try this out, it should be noted the sole purpose of these exercises is to give something to the person you are apologising to or acknowledging.

The focus of the exercise should never be having a life changing experience, nor should it be “I am great, look at me and everything I have, poor pitiful little you, let me throw you a bone”.

While it would be nice to have “Mark, led a life of continuous change” carved on my grave stone, I think I would like to be remembered more for the little joys I gave to others. I don’t mean that in an egotistical way either.
We ALL have so much to give and yet the human condition is almost always to ask “whats in it for me”?

And I want to be remembered by people as someone who tinkered with the mechanism of life, got at how it worked, then lived by the principles of that discovery.
Life is really simple.
The wise have been telling me this for years!

We come into contact with people, interact with them, then leave that interaction complete, or not.
In our earlier life, we walk away from a lot of situations, with a lot of unfinished business.
As life goes on we think it doesn’t matter. Let bygones be bygones, it’s all water under the bridge.
But is it?

Out of the blue, suddenly an old face pops into our mind.
If it doesnt matter, then why is the situation floating around our consciousness?

My pal Scott haunted me for years. Eventually we met up in Vegas. Now we are MSN buddies. He probably doesn’t realise he was one of my best friends at school and I treated him horribly when he went back to Canada.

Call me a maniac, stalky or weird. I have tracked down a few school buddies and contacted them and said “hey, I am really sorry I did that”.
They almost always say something along the lines of  “Well okay Mark, if it makes you feel better to tell me then go ahead, but I had forgotten all about it”.

People find it highly unusual because it doesn’t fit their social rules.
What if social rules are wrong?

Take a look for yourself.
What are YOUR core values?
What difference would it make to you if someone apologised to you?
Now take that idea on and treat the world the way you would like it to treat you.

I know where in life I have left something incomplete, either by wronging the person or not giving an acknowledgement where it was due.
It’s not that it makes me feel better to tell them now either.
I don’t walk away with a sudden weight lifted from my shoulders.
It is the acknowledgement, caring and giving of value to the event that matters (to me).

I have no real idea if they felt wronged or not or for how long.
I now have enough life experience to know if what I did to them happened to me, I would not have reacted well.
So it is more about saying “I recognise that what I did is not in line with the person I am now and I have learned something from you”.
It is a paying of respects to one of life’s lessons.

It invariably makes me look stupid, even a bit of a simpleton, occasionally psychologically unhinged.
However life experience has shown me, people will come back later and say “you know what you said to me, it made a difference”.

And life’s other experiences tell me people will always think I am a bit weird till they get to know me.
And when I see them pull that familiar “what planet is this guy on face” I can have a bit of a chuckle and know I’ve just made a new friend.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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Apr 27

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In keeping with my current life goals, I am going to keep this really simple.

I am going to explain the concept of paradigm shift really clearly in a few words.

I have been clearing.

My physical world is full of my past and it needs to go.

My problem is I always get stuck.

I don’t know what to do with things, how to categorise them.

I am a hoarder!

I learned a new trick yesterday. Or should I say I applied the trick of divergence to my situation.

You can read more about divergence and paradigms in The Logic Of Attraction

The question I always ask when going through my things is “Will I ever need this again, is it useful”?

The paradigm is based around saving things for the future in case they are needed.

It’s a pretty common paradigm, known to most as “Waste not, want not”!

I applied one of the exercises from my book, thought it through and finally I had one of those aha moments. I hit the Z axis!

What if I were to ask the question “Can I throw this away” instead?

Suddenly everything has a category.

It either fits “I can throw this away”.

Or it fits:

“I can’t throw this away because…”

And the because becomes the place to put it.

Some of these may include:

In the spares bin for the studio.

In the spares bin for one of the bikes.

Back in the Duran Duran storage facility.

On eBay.

On Freecycle.

And so on.

I want you to get how simple this is!

The questions you are asking form your paradigms in life.

Ask a different set of questions and you are on a different path.

Think about it.

Then think about it some more!

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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Mar 26

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I am going to use my blog as a sounding board for an idea. I gladly welcome comments on what I write over the next few posts and with permission would like to use relevant stories. If you post a comment please bear in mind it may end up published elsewhere.

I have decided to write an e-book about panic disorder.

While this book is a ‘left field’ look at what I have figured out about me, it may just work for you to. I invite you to listen to my story and take what’s useful and leave what’s not behind.

This blog entry will form the basis of chapter six.

So what are the benefits of having anxiety?

The first benefit is that I know I can handle anything.

With anxiety or a panic attack there is a glass ceiling. In my experience there is a finite supply of the neuro-chemical that causes anxiety, which means if I am anxious, or jumping out of a plane, I feel roughly the same.

Which in turn means, if an action involves doing things I can physically or mentally do when I am having a panic attack I can do it.

In my case, I can still walk, I can still see, I can still talk to people. I can understand simple direct instructions and much more.

A predisposition towards anxiety and panic actually means that with some training I can be good at things which need razor sharp focus, tense muscles and unwavering concentration.

Chances are I would make a very good racing driver, boxer or even a comedian, look at Lee Evans for example.

I have learned that I literally get so far and no matter how frightened I am it doesn’t get any worse.

So if something is terrifying I can do it.

Bottom line…

I can do it.

In fact because I am practiced at dealing with the neuro-chemistry, I am at a distinct advantage. I personally believe anxiety is something human beings, who have it, should be embracing and learning to switch adrenalin to something useful like clarity maybe?

Okay to put everything in context, if you asked a snow boarding enthusiast if they would like to snow board every day for the rest of his life the chances are they may want time off.

And to help you to take time off I am going to look at some psychological tricks you can employ to manage anxiety.

The first one is to learn to meditate. You don’t need to reach thoughtless awareness. All you need do is get to a place where you are relaxed and you recognise your thoughts.

Meditate with the intention of becoming completely thoughtless, of being in an empty space without meaning. This will allow you to focus on your thoughts and recognise them as they come to you. Sounds paradoxical doesn’t it? It is not.

Typically in anxiety and panic disorders, the person experiencing the condition will be in a kind of day dream, locked into an almost obsessive thought pattern known as a vicious cycle.

Once started, it is very difficult to break out of.

Thoughts naturally occur in cycles anyway and typically an event will break even the most focused train of thought.

However, the physiology of anxiety, the presence of the neuro-chemical, will be a reminder to get right back on that thought as soon as whatever broke it has gone. For me, distraction therapy such as reading a book, or newspaper, or focusing on an external event simply doesn’t work once a vicious cycle is underway.

With a vicious cycle, the easiest thing to do is not to let one get started.

Break the train of thought before it starts.

So you probably want to know how to do it right?

If you spend time focusing on being relaxed and in thoughtless awareness, your thoughts will occupy a familiar space.

Monitor your thoughts.

Practice only indulging thoughts which are facts.

Avoid recollecting stories from the past.

If you have a thought like “wow, this is spooky/weird” then don’t start thinking of other times when things were spooky/weird. If you think about other times this happened, you will create more negative feelings, which will in turn trigger more negative thoughts.

Don’t think about why you shouldn’t be thinking the thought either, this is just as bad.

When the thought pops into your head, simply don’t allow yourself to consider it, drop it like a hot brick, move on to the next thought.

Ignore all statements such as:

I wonder if…

What if…

Only rely on what you perceive to be the truth with your senses, what is in the present right now, not your past experience or what might happen.

Of course the psychological tricks might not work immediately. These kind of exercises take commitment and practice, so what else can you do to manage anxiety?

Here’s an obvious one if you suffer from social phobias. Stay at home. Don’t go out. Communicate via the Internet, have your shopping delivered.

Find a safe person who understands what is going on with you. Get an advocate, or a mentor from a befriending service to help you.

If you suffer from anxiety from being alone, go out. Make sure you have people you can contact if you start to feel off.

Take medication.

Personally I am terrified of medicine because most of the time I have a paradoxical reaction to it and it can have the opposite effect and make my anxiety considerably worse.

However if you work with your doctor, you should be able to come up with a solution that works.

Why have I mentioned doctors before alternative therapies and natural medicines?

Because your doctor should be your first port of call.

If you’re suffering from symptoms of panic, it’s important to see a doctor to rule out the following possibilties:

Hyperthyroidism
Hypoglycemia
Medication withdrawal
Mitral valve prolapse, a minor cardiac problem that occurs when one of the heart’s valves doesn’t close correctly.
Stimulant use (amphetamines, cocaine, caffeine)

Please eliminate other illnesses that may cause similar symptoms before trying anything in this book, regardless of what you believe about modern medicine.

Alternative therapies that have worked for me in the past include:

Anything that is relaxing, my favourites are Bowen technique, Tai Chi and Yoga.

I recently read that Chamomile tea works when brewed very strongly, if you put 4 tea bags in a cup and make it like a syrup.

Hibiscus, Lavender and Sandalwood are all good too, as are Vervain and Valerian.

And what to avoid?

Alcohol, Amphetamines, Caffeine, Cannabis, Cocaine, Dairy products, Ecstasy, Flavourings, Guarana, Mercury fillings, Nicotine, Other recreational drugs, Preservatives, Processed foods, Refined Sugar, Wheat.

If you are serious about mastering anxiety, my final advice would be to have your mercury fillings removed (if you have them) and after doing a detox program to eliminate residual heavy metals from your system, eat a natural low carbohydrate diet of super foods, fruit, vegetables, white meat and drink only water.

Whatever you do, believe in it or don’t do it at all.

As I said in my book, ‘The Law Of Attraction states that thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) dictate the reality of your life, whether or not you are aware of it’.

It can also be stated that ‘What you think is what you feel’.

I don’t think I have written anything new here. I do however hope to have taken a new look at anxiety, and, perhaps explored a few things from different angles.

In the year 1600, Shakespeare gave Hamlet the following line “There is neither good nor ill but thinking makes it so”.

And here we are 400 years on with roughly the same struggle.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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Feb 16

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It was brought to my attention in a call last night ‘I DO NOT WANT’ to let go of the Duran Duran Access All Areas tour passes I am giving away in the competition I am running.

I have an attachment to them.

There is a block.

It was suggested I should wait till I am ready to give them away. Agreed, but I want to stretch.

For me it is a clearing exercise.

I am choosing to clear the block and let go.

So what is it?

What is the block?

From a logical stand point the passes have no use to me whatsoever.

Yes, they represent my memories of 15 years touring with Duran Duran as a synthesiser programmer, but beyond that they are pieces of plastic kicking around my house.

The idea that they may be worth $100 each on eBay is of no interest to me either.

I can think of easier ways of making $100.

So where is it?

Where is the block?

What am I trying to remain in control of and why won’t I let go?

It doesn’t end there either.

I have another competition running. It has NO entries. Again it is blocked. And if there is a block, the block must be in me.

The second competition is for a £500 motorcycle. The beneficiary will be a teenager.

The teenager has to find a mentor to win. Someone who will commit to training them how to build a bike. The idea being that the skills to build a bike will be passed to the next generation of bike builders. There is no shortage of mentors willing to pass on their knowledge – so again it has to be me.

The second competition is really important to me. When I have the money, my ambition is to set up a transport museum. I want to employ master craftsmen, old guys in their sixties and seventies and I want to employ teenagers and have the old guys teach them to be craftsmen.

But I thought, why wait till I have the money. I have a spare motorcycle I could give away. Why don’t I start doing it now?

I decided to do one of the exercises in my book to see if I could find a solution.

What came to mind surprised me.

It was a story of mistrust.

And my mistrust stems from a belief I inherited, a belief that is somewhat harder to shift than one I created the evidence for.

My story goes, when my Grandfather retired, he decided to sell his large country farm and put his money into stocks and bonds.

Local developers approached him to buy individual plots to build on, but my Grandfather refused to sell the farm as anything other than a going concern.

He was a genuine farmer and grew broccoli, kept cows, sheep and pigs and while he made a lot of money from spring cabbage, he liked to do a bit of everything.

He even wrote a book or two and you can find “Good Pig Keeping” and “Good Sheep Farming” on Amazon or eBay by running a search for Noel Lea Tinley

Anyway after all the offers and schemes, he finally found someone to sell the farm to and settled into retirement.

He didn’t aim to get the best price he could, he aimed to keep the farm together as a going concern.

So what happened?

Within months of buying the farm, the purchaser had planning permission and was selling it off as plots.

They even converted the barn into flats.

What is left of the farm today?

A single undeveloped field which belongs to my father and his two siblings.

I believe I know how he felt.

In my book The Logic Of Attraction I talk a lot about challenging beliefs. I actually say:

Find new evidence to challenge them. If you know their origin, check in with the person you inherited them from.
Make sure you got the right end of the stick. Maybe the person has cleared that belief for himself or herself, changed their mind, or learned something new since they taught you?

So I checked in with Dad today and I asked how Grandfather Noel had coped with what had happened.

It seems I have made up my own story about it. My story is that it really bothered him.

The reality of it is that after the farm sold, he lost interest. He had the money for his retirement and when he died, my Grandmother had plenty of money until her death.

I think my version of the story is the source of my block and I have been avoiding making the same mistake.

So, I guess I need to look at what it would mean if someone sold the things I am giving away and profited from the proceeds.

I guess I would feel like I had been suckered. (How I think my Grandfather must have felt).

I guess the DURAN DURAN competition is complex so that I can make sure the winner is not a profiteer.

I guess the motorcycle competition is the same.

Should I choose the wrong person to give the prize to?

I would feel like a bit of an idiot.

Can I trust that the Universe will guide me to give it to exactly the right person?

Yes, I think I can.

In LOVE, enjoy my competitions and I look forward to picking the winners soon.

Duran competition here: http://aspergineering.com/blog/index.php/2009/02/access-all-areas

Motorcycle competition here: http://www.britchopper.co.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?t=14939

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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