mark ty-wharton

Somewhere in Biggleswade, not far from my house, is a tree.

Attached to the tree with a clothes peg is a five pound note.

It is an amount of money I am comfortable with giving away on a one off experiment to a random stranger.

I kind of wish it was a fifty pound note, but it is not.

So far it has been there about ten minutes.

I have mixed feelings.

I want to see who gets it.

I want to let it go.

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Mark Ty-Wharton.

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I am a virtual participant on Todd Silva’s http://giveawayadollaraday.com program.
However with the resulting disruption of moving house, I haven’t been doing it as often as I need to.
With the additional expense, I have also been a more reluctant participant.

This afternoon I went to buy some rawl plugs to put up a blind.
I went to a local shop which I really enjoy, because it has all these overpowering smells.
The smell of garden chemicals, polish and creosote, pans, oil, stove blacking and the like.
A real old fashioned hardware store.

The guy has to be lucky to be there.
The DIY giants have almost definitely killed his trade.
But he is still there, closing for an hour for lunch and carrying on a tradition of putting screws in brown paper bags.

To meet my request, he handed me a lump of yellow plastic and asked for 50p
Then I asked for two stainless 10mm blots, something I need for the motorbike I am building.
He disappeared and rooted around out back for ages.
While I waited, I hid a pound on top of a jar of beeswax.

When he came back he handed me the bolts.
“That’s four pounds and fifty pence” he ventured.
I looked at him quizzically ‘are you fcuking crazy’ I thought. ‘I could buy these for 10p on eBay.’
I turned up my nose, flicked the bolts back at him and even though I was holding a sizable mass of change declared I did not have enough money.
He looked at me disgusted and literally THREW them in a drawer.
I walked out.

As I walked away I started to think.
‘How does this fit with my ethos of supporting that shop?’
It simply didn’t.
‘I just LEFT a pound in his store, so what if I were to consider the extra cost of the bolts as an unspoken gift to him?’
I turned on my heels and went back and told him I had just found change in another pocket.
To his surprise, I bought the bolts.

I had a slightly strange feeling as I left the store.
He KNOWS he is overcharging for the bolts and KNOWS I wasn’t too happy about it.
He has no idea why I went back and bought them though.

I have counted him into the program as a few lost Give Away A Dollar A Days.
I am now considering shopping with other more expensive vendors and supporting the stores that light me up by integrating them into my tithing process?
But, do you think I should tell him?

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

blog.aspergineering.com

I love my life, I really do, but am I really living it? Or will I live it tomorrow, when time has already been and gone?

There are versions of the life I could have lived, lost out there in the sands of time because of the choices I’ve made.
The obvious ones are forgotten lovers.

I have fallen in love with several people during my life, and with the exception of my current relationship, I almost never recognize it at the time.
It used to be hard to distinguish between a person who comforted my anxiety and someone who really lit me up.
I can count on one hand the people I didn’t do enough for and in turn they slipped through these same fingers in one way or another.

Even in my current relationship I am now wondering if I am doing enough to nurture it’s longevity for a lifetime.
It is easy to fall into a routine as love blossoms. I have everything I want and more, perhaps I need to remind my partner of this more often.

I awoke from a dream earlier and it was so real, for a moment I thought it was really happening.
When I was 16 I fell in love with someone a lot younger than me.
When I was 18 or 19 I left a relationship I was in to be with that person.
I was only with her for a matter of moments, but the experience was amazing.
More significant things happened in that week of my teenage life than in any other.
I redefined my taste in music and experienced the timeless bliss of love in summer meadows, wondering at the nature of the Universe.

What happened next was a bit of a life changing event.
Under massive pressure from my friends, I was persuaded to return to my original pining girlfriend.
I was told that knocking around with a load of 15 and 16 year olds, going to parties with them, just wasn’t cool.
Getting back with my original girlfriend massaged my ego, for a split second she was flatteringly attentive.
Familiar ground and a reunion late at night led to me walking home in turmoil.
Stupidly, I succumbed to everyone else’s advice and made a wrong decision (for me).

I don’t think I saw the other girl for many years after that.
Somewhere in the back of my mind some infinite possibilities were lost.
Somewhere in the pit of my stomach 30 years on I can occasionally remember the feeling of separation.
Not for the first time, I had given up love, for the opinion of others. I was a fool!

Within days, the original relationship went back to being a roller coaster ride of jealousy, even dominated my life for 8 months when I moved to London shortly afterwards.
So what do I think might have happened if I had stood up to my peers?
Who knows, I may even have stayed in my home town? I might even be there today…

I actually have a recurring dream where I am a bit older and walk the route to the girl’s house.
In my dreams we are together under all sorts of different circumstances.
Last night I was in Los Angeles going to meet her at a party.
And when I wake up, I almost never realize I am 46 years old and have a daughter the same age this girl was when I first met her.

I haven’t seen her in years, yet a part of her is somehow stuck with me.
Some of the things we did are like photographic memories.
But why does this relationship stick in my mind?
I don’t think she is someone I need to suddenly have in my life thirty years on. I don’t even think I should have done anything any differently. What I have now, wisdom, is no match for youth. And I probably wouldn’t give it too much thought if it wasn’t for the dreams.

I definitely would not change the relationship I am currently in. By design, it is perfect.
I struggled through countless relationships to decide what works and what doesn’t to find out the kind of relationship I want to be in.
When I met my current partner, I immediately knew she was the one.
They say, you’ll know true love when you find it.

I am not sure as a teenager I knew very much about anything.
With benefit of thirty years hindsight perhaps!
As she sat there on the back of my friend’s moped, all those years ago, I was mesmerized.
And when my chance came?
Perhaps I wasn’t ready to “accept” love and felt I had to fight for it?

Or perhaps the lesson is more simple?
I think the answer is, I didn’t have the wisdom to take a stand for what I believed in.
I didn’t take responsibility for my feelings and fight for my right to be in love.

So you see, that is why I am grateful for that lesson and grateful for the dreams.
They remind me to love the people I love now and not wait thirty years to tell them I have loved them.
To stop and count my blessings, and to always do what is right for me!

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

blog.aspergineering.com

In the past months, I have been contemplating my life’s purpose on this planet.

I have been barking at the moon, complaining at God and kicking the big D in the balls.

I am reminded life boils down to one simple concept, LOVE.

You either use it, or abuse it. Human beings, every one of us, do both…

Even when our intentions seem pure, when we look again, there is always a caveat we haven’t noticed in ourselves.

The simple act of being human means we will always have work to do. Anyone that says otherwise is a fu*king liar.

So who am I?

A musician?

While my autistic mind sees music in a very mathematical way and I am more suited to technical pursuits in the studio than standing on stage with a guitar staring at my feet, even under the wing of the kindest of rock star my beacon has no chance to really shine that brightly.

Does my name leap out at you from the tens of millions of CDs it has appeared on?

Probably not.

Okay if you were looking for Ty-Wharton, I’ll give you a hint.

My nickname is ‘Tinley’ A.K.A. Tinley, The Sampling Champion Of The Universe.

Now, if you check your 14th century dictionary (if you can find one) you will probably find out that the word ‘Tinley’ means religious torch.

If you can’t find it there, speak to an aficionado of ‘Call My Bluff’ for a back episode.

So who am I?

I am and have always been a writer, from a family of writers.

Right now I am here to shine my ‘Tinley’ at the ‘law of attraction’ – to help YOU ask the right questions to find the answer to life, the Universe and everything.

And compared to my guitar playing it’s going very well!

There is not a day that goes by, without me receiving at least one email complimenting my writing and how much my ideas and book have helped someone find some of life’s answers (for them).

I tend to scratch my head a bit and think “Wow, okay that’s cool”.

I have been using the principles of ‘law of attraction’ for over thirty years, but do I really know exactly how it works?

And if I don’t then what qualifies me to write a book about it?

Again, who am I?

I would like to answer that with a question.

My good friend Emily asked me to consider the martial arts today.

In particular I have personal experience of Tai Chi.

I am a student of Taoist Tai Chi, as is my instructor, my instructor’s instructor and so on based on traditions going back some eight hundred or more years.

And the Universe has permission from each of these people to be a channel for its wisdom.

The true wisdom of a good Tai Chi instructor comes from knowing nothing.

By definition a statement of expertise, tells you a person has nothing to learn about a subject.

When a person has nothing to learn about a subject, perhaps they have nothing to teach?

Perhaps a true teaching qualification would be a willingness to learn from each and every encounter and to pass on that wisdom as an invitation or instruction.

In my opinion, we need more facilitators, instructors and students and less experts!

So consider the following.

And please interpret this using your own concept or definition of God, the Universe or whatever suits your beliefs.

You are not on this planet because The Universe wants to teach you something.

In fact you are not on this planet to learn anything at all.

There are NO ANSWERS.

The Universe did not create all this and put YOU here to give you the answers.

The Universe actually hasn’t got a fu*king clue either!

And the one thing the Universe knows absolutely NOTHING about is the ‘law of attraction’.

We are actually here so that the Universe can figure out how it works.

Go on to consider that WE are the Universe’s super computer at work, calculating an outcome so it can come to an understanding of life’s mysteries.

So, if you are consistently getting it wrong, you are doing exactly what the Universe put you here for.

If you think you’ve failed, you’ve succeeded…

Well done, go have a beer, cigarette, hot dog, whatever you fancy. You don’t need to read any further!

However if you think you have got it all figured…

You think you are the switched on guru?

The master?

The great teacher?

The deity?

Wow…

STOP!!!

THINK AGAIN…

No, really – think again!!!

Do not go live with “I am an expert I can teach you this”.

Or “If you would only follow my method you could have success”.

Okay, you may give others the appearance of success, but you WILL ultimately fail yourself.

And the Universe is watching!

Now try modeling this theory in our world.

An example?

I am using a computer to type this.

If this computer had conscious awareness it might be thinking – this guy Mark, who is bashing wildly at my keys is trying to tell me something.

Whoa.

He just deleted that entire paragraph (read into that – created a Tsunami in Word Press).

What did the Tsunami mean?

What if it meant nothing?

In the words of the brilliant philosopher Werner Erhard “It’s all empty and meaningless (and it’s empty and meaningless that it’s empty and meaningless).”

But why?

And why is real happiness found in simply accepting what is and what isn’t?

We cannot connect with consciousness, when we are already simply part of the machinery of consciousness. How can we possibly connect to something which we already are?

So many unanswered questions.

As I said earlier, all of life boils down to one simple concept.

LOVE!

The Universe is in itself LOVE, which doesn’t mean anything, until you realise the Universe itself is trying to learn about and experience LOVE, whatever that might be.

The concept of LOVE shows up everywhere, because the Universe is using itself as a test bed for the concept of LOVE. Or should I say its own concept of itself.

If the Universe is a mad scientist, then YOU are its experiment.

All of creation is using the energy of LOVE to attract and create more LOVE. This will happen infinitely until such a time as all of creation (LOVE) understands all of creation (LOVE).

And the Universe is learning about this moment by moment, through YOU!

How does it relate to ‘law of attraction’?

Once you understand the mechanism, you can actually become a magnet for anything you want to attract into your life.

You are encouraged to feel gratitude.

Go a step further.

Understand the energy of LOVE!

Become LOVE and you become the Universe, the creator. Refute LOVE and you cannot be yourself. You become a lie.

Accept LOVE and that LOVE means different things for different people.

There ARE people on this planet who LOVE doing things you do not.

And please remember, the entire mechanism of life is completely intangible and totally unpredictable.

At any second the truth may simply stop being the truth!

Therefore anyone who claims to have all life’s answers is probably misguided and missing the point.

Don’t let anyone tell you they know exactly how something works.

If your guru is still learning then they have something to teach you!

Which is why, if you are reading my blog, the less I know about anything I write about, in a way, the better it is for you.

Because the more I try to learn and not to teach, the more I will instruct and the more we will both learn.

I am here to question ‘the law of attraction’.

Are you?

Do I know everything there is to know about the ‘law of attraction’?

By reading this you already know something I don’t.

Please comment below.

If you enjoyed reading this blog, you will find more than a handful of similar thought provoking conversations in my book The Logic Of Attraction.

I invite you to buy it here.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

blog.aspergineering.com

I have just taken an hour or so to carefully consider an email someone wrote me today.

And once read, considered and replied to, I realise yet again, the person who wrote it has got me to see my own true worth on the planet as a human being.

I got to see that I care. I really care for people. Which is unusual for someone with Aspergers.

I also got to see that I am not the kind of person who would send an email to a fan which said “I’m sure you mean well, but please stop writing, posting and twittering me. It’s annoying.”

I got to see the kind of person who would write that line, would be hiding behind it because they would be unable to face their own insecurity and anger.

I got to see that my piece of the jigsaw is really special. That where I fit into the grand scheme of things matters. That I get to change lives, not make a living from the greedy.

And I am grateful for that.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

I think this should be the final blog tour entry and for me the most important. I’ve had a huge realisation. A while ago I opened a door into a new World and accidentally left a door open behind me. Several outstanding tasks separate me from freedom. As I clear them, I see, the World I leave behind me is a World of broken promises, a World of shattered egos, a World where no-one dares…

I’m actually shocked!

The sadness is overcome when I realise the World I have stepped into is a World full of rising stars, not falling ones. So it seems appropriate to post a blog by my daughter Cloudia, a young woman with a rising talent as a writer, a woman you will be hearing more of in time.

I also express profound gratitude to my fellow rising stars, those who dared!

See you on the other side of the looking glass…

Rising souls, I give you Cloudia Tinley…

Dreaming

I look forward to going to bed at night. The dreams we have that are made up from our memories and then distorted.
So when people say dreams mean something, they do! They are everything that has happened to you during the day or during a period of time.
We have many dreams in our lifetime of course. Even if you can’t remember having them.
I’ve had dreams recently when people are trying to kill me. Now in real life nobody is trying to get me, but my subconscious mind may see it that way.
Your subconscious is a very powerful thing. When you are typing on a keyboard you aren’t thinking “Now hit w” you automatically do it.
That is your subconscious working.
Now I love having dreams because for me it is a bit of a relief from reality. I can forget what is real and instead see things that are impossible or seem impossible in the real world. It is so much fun!
I have found that by listening to certain music triggers certain dreams or thinking about something will influence your dreams.
For example: If I listen to Decode by Paramore, which is the music from the film Twilight, I may possibly dream of vampires.
We’ve all heard of nightmares. They are just the dreams that seem horrible to us. But it is just your subconscious making it that way.
I know they aren’t nice but there is no cure. You can not control your subconscious or how it perceives things.
I hear that cheese of all things can make dreams stronger or enhanced etc. I’m not sure if it is true, but I have tried it.
It may have enhanced or made my dream slightly more manic.
So give it a go.
But remember to brush your teeth after eating it before bed!

Cloudia Tinley <3

I have been following Amy on Twitter and she is a great person to follow. You can read her tweets here http://twitter.com/allaboutenergy

When I purchased her Money Reiki Meditation, the following night I put it in my iPod on loop, fell asleep and programmed it into my sub-conscious about 21 times!

I love this blog post, it complements my work perfectly. I certainly got exactly what I asked for…

In it, Amy actually reveals ‘The Secret’ of The Logic Of Attraction…

So, if you want the answers, read on!

I give you, Amy Flynn…

LOVE IS THE ONLY ENERGY

I am Amy, Mark has asked me to contribute a “perfect” post for his “Blog Tour”.  Since Mark just shared with me recently that he bought a book that says I Love You in all the known languages, I thought a post on Love would be quite suitable to share with his readers.  I have gotten to know and greatly appreciate Mark through the microblogging service twitter. He has received Money Reiki healing from me and enjoys my Money Reiki Healing Meditation MP3 regularly.  (I will give you links at the bottom of the post for everything).  I enjoy Mark, I love his mind and how it works.  Enjoy my contribution to the Logic Attraction blog.
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What is Love?  Actually Love is a force, an energy and it is you.  Too often we use the word Love as verb as something we do.  Truth is, when we are in touch with the truth of our being – who and what we are – the ONLY thing we do is Love. More accurately the only thing we Be is Love.

Love is the only Energy.
The only Force of True Creation.

We are created out of Absolute Love and this is where we return, to Absolute Love.  Love is not a concept or word – it is a force, an Energy.  Many of us are stuck in conditioned thinking of Love as concept – a noun or a verb.   This is not Love, but rather human created constructs which came into existence as an effort to speak about Love.  Absolute Love cannot be communicated in word, only as energetic Being (or expression) of the Love Energy.  When we, as Created Beings,  manifest – we are essentially Loving something into Being.  When we free something, we are essentially Loving it into freedom.  You’ve heard it said that Attention equals Love … consistent Attention placed is consistent Love placed.   “Energy flows where Attention goes”… is it all connecting?   A very direct route to the Love Energy vibration is the vibration of Profound Gratitude.   It can’t help but deliver you to an experience of Absolute Love.

When truly in the vibration of unconditional and absolute Love, many of the Universal Laws seem to fall away.  This is the highest vibration and places you outside any limitation – you are truly unbounded.    It is almost as if the Universal Laws exist to lovingly guide each of us into Being our true nature, which is pure Love.  The only Law that is noticeable is the Law of Love.  And with pure unconditional Love all things are possible.

I personally have noticed when I am being Unconditional and Absolute Love, time ceases, space evaporates, miraculous and magnificent things are created with absolute ease, there is no duality experienced – just pure Unity, everything “just is” and relative comparisons cease.   I also notice there is no sense of “I” present at all, but some larger Energy expressing, my true nature.   Infinite and unbounded, limitless.

It is the space of miracles.

I am Amy Flynn and you can find me at http://allabout-energy.com and http://MoneyReikiHealing.com. At either one of these sites you can sign up for my awesome (as readers call it) ezine “Energy Currents” and a free Money Reiki Healing to dramatically shift the prosperity flowing to you.   You can also experience fun with me on twitter at http://twitter.com/allaboutenergy .  The Money Reiki Healing Meditation that Mark uses and enjoys so much is found at: http://Meditation.MoneyReikiHealing.com

I enjoyed participating in Mark’s “Blog Tour” and with all of you.  I hope you enjoyed the energy of my contribution and will go out into the world and share the Love that YOU are with all you encounter!

To read the other guest entries click here: http://aspergineering.com/blog/

I have my older two children staying with me for a week and have decided to spend less time on the computer. As it is one of my special interests I am literally dragging myself away from it kicking and screaming. To make sure I have less contact with it I have invited some of my favourite fellow blog writers to  to stand in for me.

Todd Silva’s idea has been a complete revelation to me and I cannot stress enough how much fun it is.

My daughter gave me a puzzled look the other day and said “Dad, why do you keep leaving pound coins everywhere?”

If you want to know why read on…

Ladies and gentlemen, Todd Silva…

Do you know what the greatest gift is that you can give?

A couple of years ago, I began something that I call Give Away A Dollar A
Day. I had experienced some real hard lessons around money and finances,
and, what sprung out of all the “inner work” that I did to try and
understand what had happened, was the inspiration to begin this simple and
joyous practice. The discoveries that I made were that much of my life was
spent looking out for No. 1, with little time spent giving to others. In
short, I was a taker. Those hard lessons I mentioned were my wake up call.
And the inspiration to begin to give daily was how I was being gently guided
to turn this behavior around, and to start giving back.

Although I’ve given away a dollar every day for almost two years now, along
the way I’ve learned so much more about the many ways that I can give, that
you can give, that we can give – we can give thanks by expressing our
gratitude for all that we have right now, and we can be in service to
others. We can forgive – others, and just as importantly, ourselves. We can
give unconditionally which is without a doubt the most essential part of
giving. We can give time to be with our loved ones, and we can give them
love.

What I’ve come to learn is that the greatest gift that we can give, though,
is to give of who we really are. It’s to give back to others, to all of life
itself, the true essence of who you are, from your heart, from your very
core. “Follow your bliss”, as the late mythologist Joseph Campbell wrote. It
means – discover who you are and what you’re here to do, and then GIVE to
the world from that heart center within you.

I’m a sales engineering executive, and as such, spend much of my time at
work discussing business related issues with associates and clients. But my
most favorite thing to talk about is this idea of “Follow you bliss”. When
the time is right, and the conversation is open and ready for it, I like to
ask, “If you had no worries or concerns about money or time – in other
words, if you knew that the clock wasn’t going to run out on you anytime
soon, and that all of your bills were going to be paid – what would you
choose to do?” I love this question, because it almost always takes everyone
by surprise, and elicits a pretty healthy smile!

Do you give yourself time to dream about what you would do? Allow yourself
the time to fuel your dreams. And then begin to take the steps toward
realizing your dream now – even if it’s just baby steps.

Because when you are following your bliss, you are giving from the very
essence of who you are. And I truly believe that there is no greater reason
for your being here. And that there is no greater gift that you can give.

Blessings,

Todd Silva

PS – This is from The Power Of Myth with Bill Moyers, by Joseph Campbell,
page 113 – “If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track
that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you
ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are – if you are
following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within
you, all the time.”