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Inspired by a conversation with Laurence Platt.

I have been thinking about death.

As a context, a basis for the creation of everything that exists, language is an interesting tool. It sets us apart from animals.

Without it, existence would have a different quality. Our experience of ourselves and our awareness of our awareness would not be the same.

As an autistic adult, I have a self-conscious nature. Though, I am not sure I agree with Dr Temple Grandin, that I am like an animal.

I would say I am further from animal in my noticing, with more extranious language, while retaining a connection to my animal self. I would say I have an over awareness of my animalness. It actually detracts somewhat from human social interaction. In otherwords, most human beings don’t notice themselves.

Like other autistic people, I do some of my thinking in pictures. I am going to use *language* as a verb here to describe the process.

If I am thinking about things I will *language* images into my thought processes. Thinking “I’ll collect Gina from the station” puts images of Gina, car and station onto an internal movie screen.

I visualise the outcome. It is a very natural process I am actually self aware of. It includes still images and movies of different aspects and outcomes and the best solution is presented back to me conversationally. It makes creative visualisation and vision boards easy conceptually and almost impossible to put into practice.

And language appears to be at the root of the process. So what does language have to do with death?

I would like to create something for you based on a recent experience.

Last Saturday, I went to see spiritualist medium, Philip Kinsella. For the purposes of this blog, it does not matter if you believe in mediumship or not. For a moment however, accept there is something the medium connects to, even if it is cold reading, the following holds true.

If you are a spiritualist, you will have to excuse my non-spiritualist use of the word dead. For me the terms passed and other side hold death at arms length.

However, Philip gave the audience messages from those crossed over to the other side. Very specific and very accurate messages, with very descriptive details and accurate names.

Interestingly for me, Philip worked with pictures and feelings. He then interpreted the information he was receiving and literally *languaged* the person he was channeling into being.

What do I mean by that?

The person being *given* arrived in the room as a concept or idea in Philip’s mind. A person who is dead, no longer has a physical presence. Assuming they exist, the only way for us to have awareness of their being, is for Philip to *language* their being into existence.

The only place they continue to exist past death is our conversation about them. Their existence is in language. Nowhere else… So langauge is their being?

And is that true of us? When I stop thinking in words and think in pictures, do I cease to be?

If I do, my existence is a paradox!

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

mark ty wharton

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It is not really social networking in the same sense as FaceBook is it?

And I have an opinion about why Twitter works.

As a long term Internet user (since CIX back in 1990) I am going to make a simple observation about a few trends.

I have used AOL and MSN style messengers to communicate with my friends and acquaintances for a long time.

I also use SMS to communicate on my phone, where speaking might not be appropriate.

It has become second nature to send and recieve messages in both the above ways.

Twitter follows a similar format to SMS.

As most of my messenger based friends are on Twitter, I DM them instead of using messenger.

Half the time I forget and simply bang out an @ message.

And there in lies the rub.

It is easy to forget, Twitter is not a private messenger or SMS service.

It is easy to slip and divulge personal details about my life, once out there, I can be amused by my own candidity, or shamefully embarrassed.

If I choose to be amused, my ego tends to want to follow the same path to more amusement.

Tee hee, I just stuck my willy in the toaster!

In the not so distant past Jonathan Ross was having private conversations with his lovely wife Jane, which were fascinating to follow.

Why?

Because human beings, including me, by nature are intrinsically nosey.

Our curiosity drives us to follow people, just to find out what they are up to.

What makes them tick?

The simple truth!

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

mark ty-wharton, creative thinker | innovator | visionary

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I don’t know about you, I hate making decisions.
I don’t want to make the “wrong” decision. I only have one shot at this life and I want it to be the best experience I can possibly have.

But, like me, do you put off decisions?
Afraid you’ll get it wrong, so not making any decision at all?
Is your life permanently on hold because you have no idea what to do next?

I used to frequent psychics and fortune tellers, hoping they would give me some clue or guidance.
I even learned to read tarot, read my stars and practiced the ancient art of I Ching, the random act of flipping coins.
It taught me something important.

Where I can’t be guided by my intuition, I can be guided by my feelings.
The process is so simple anyone can do it. It works for me every time.
Let me teach you how…

You will need:
A problem you can’t make up your mind about.
A coin.

Find a quiet place and concentrate on your problem. Mull it over.
It is preferable to get the point where you can ask an either/or question about it.
Asign a coin face to each of these possibilities – for example:

HEADS – I dump Jack and go out with Tom.
TAILS – I marry Jack.

Or another example:

HEADS – I go to the party.
TAILS – I stay home and put my feet up.

Now flip the coin, knowing you will act on whatever decision fate delivers to you…

At the point you reveal the coin, observe how you feel about the answer.

If your heart leaps and you get “Great, I get to be with Tom” or whatever is right for you and you are in agreement with the coin, act in accordance with “fate”.

If you feel disappointment and you get “Aw, but I really wanted to go to the party” or another sign that the coin flip is not in alignment with your true feelings – IGNORE THE COIN!

What you need to know is, if the decision is made for you, how do YOU feel about it?

Then taking your feelings into account, you can take responsibilty for your life and move forward.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

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It is my son’s fourth birthday today. We have been celebrating. While I gave him loads of gifts, the best gift I can give him today is to be genuine.

So here is an admission:

I am actually squirming as I write this…

I am a name dropper!

I discovered something I do in life which is a block for me and is at best a bit slimy but at worst completely self depreciating.

I have been hanging off my famous friends coat tails and using my association with them to further my career!

In fact if I recall, once a time upon, most of my friendships started with thinking “What can this person do for me?” and “If people see I am working with The XYZ, they will want me to work with them too!”

I think there is also a hope, if one of them tells me what I am doing is good, or endorses what I do, it will somehow validate my existence and give my life and this time around, my current product, my book, meaning.

It’s a bit like taking a tune to an A&R man and waiting for the nod, the nod of approval. The nod of approval they will only ever give when you are on fire with your own creativity. Like everything else, it’s all in the unspoken communication.

If you are a NO you’ll get a NO.

Okay there are one or two genuine friendships along the way, the rest are history so to speak, or should I say no longer to speak to.

Recently, I even tried to befriend some brand new famous people. Stephen Fry via Twitter, Bob Proctor and Joe Vitale from the movie The Secret, The Dalai Lama and Werner Erhard to name a few.

In a way, Joe Vitale is the guy who somehow (don’t ask me how) got me to realise I am being a slime ball by doing it.

I was basically working on the premise “If I can get this guy to Tweet about my book, loads of people will buy it”.

Not that there is anything intrinsically wrong with doing it, a lot of people build their social networks in exactly this way.

And maybe that’s the key. Social networks. I have Aspergers and was somehow missing the point of the whole thing beyond “how can I generate more leads?”

Here’s the thing!

Because I say that I don’t and won’t do it, I now have an integrity issue.

I’ve put a lot of energy into making people notice me! Especially the famous… Trying to force their hand to get them to believe in me by sending them a book, while perhaps not believing in it enough myself.

What I have just seen about myself, is I need people who are at a certain level to validate my work. And there’s the hideous irony.

I am the guy that says there are no levels!

The interesting thing about Twitter is that I have actually made some really meaningful connections along the way.

I would go on to say, there are a small circle of us accelerating one another’s enlightenment in 140 characters or less.

So much so in fact, that I am now a YES!

If you are not already, follow me on Twitter, my user name is @mark_tywharton

Specifically check out some of the people I am following. The theme… Is LOVE!

Are any of them famous?

Not yet!

In my experience, many famous people are famous to make up for their own insecurities and helping someone else climb the ladder to fame and fortune would of course make them feel insecure, so they won’t do it!

The really meaningful connections are coming from people whose lives I am making a difference in, people I have been giving something to rather than trying to get something from.

Of course, I was attracting an exact reflection of me. So you’ll have
to take my word for it or put it down to my flawed perception

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

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Tonights blog is written by my darling partner Gina.

Gina is my true soulmate. You can read our story in my book http://thelogicofattraction.com

She is my bridge to the neuro-typical World, someone I can rely on to interpret facial expressions or tell me what is going on when I don’t understand.

I asked her to write something, because I feel she is as important as life itself, without her I would be a ship adrift in a vast ocean of chicken soup.

It seems odd introducing her, but here she is… Gina Ty-Wharton

Exploring our primal instincts.

I’m sitting on the train and I just spotted a poster with the headline
‘Twisted Killer stalks the rich and famous’. It was about a book
called ‘Drop Dead Gorgeous’, a ‘shocking and disturbing read’
apparently, and I got to wondering why human beings choose to put such
scary and horrifying details into their consciousness via films and
books.
‘Horror’ films and books and those containing extreme violence are
popular and accepted forms of human entertainment. We don’t really
think twice about the latest graphic serial killer film or novel and
give even less thought to why we are drawn to them.
Is it to get a taste of the thrill we are supposed to have once
experienced whilst hunting down prey with our bare hands, the blood of
the kill, the knife edge of life or death back when we were all living
in caves? If so, why do will still need this? DO will still need to do
this? Are we actually perpetuating horror and violence by pursuing
this? And do we need to do this to be closer to god or are we actually
preventing our advancement?
Perhaps we are preventing our evolution to a higher state by choosing
to keep doing this?
If the human race stopped artificially pushing atrocities into its
consciousness, would the world slowly adjust and evolve to a higher
place? Is the violence and horror self perpetuating?
Personally I choose not to watch a film or read a book unless it is
something that will uplift or enlighten me. Maybe back in cave
dwelling days my genetic line can be traced back to the ones who sat
at the back of the cave and dreamed…

Gina can be found at http://gracefuloak.com

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For me, Wes Wehmiller was one of the most important members of Duran Duran.

He was weird like me.

Actually it might be truer to say I am learning to be weird like Wes.

Wes had a way with weird that was loveable.

Earlier today I was rudely reminded he is dead.

I recently discovered two signed tour books I was given while touring with Duran Duran.

Wes’ signature appears on one of them.

I looked at it and without thinking much about it then looked at the other book.

The other book is signed by Lamya.

It simply says “Hey Tinley Tins. Keep In Touch”.

We didn’t.

She is dead too.

She died on January 8th this year.

Reading those words shocked me.

Whether she meant for me to keep in touch I don’t know.

The bizarre thing is both Wes and Lamya died, as I understand it, of roughly the same condition.

Looking at the book, Steve Alexander wrote “We’ll work together soon” probably ten years ago and we haven’t done it yet.

So I have to assume they are throw away comments and not get too emotional.

And dead is dead right?

Except the legend that is Wes lives on.

Later in the day, I was archiving Duran Duran master tapes and found a session I recorded with Wes in Paris.

It was for one of my tunes which I put up on a machine during a break (which as I recall involved eating a really oily pizza).

I had a tune I wanted help with and Wes laid down a whole load of bass parts for it.

If I am totally honest, I have no idea what he played. I trusted him so much to come up with the goods, that I literally stuck the machine in record and let him get on with it.

So today, I am putting Wes’ bass parts into Pro Tools, throwing a channel open and listening to Wes Wehmiller.

I also have a disk of Steve Alexander drum loops I recorded.

Perhaps I can fuse the two and make something interesting. A tribute perhaps?

So do I need these reminders of friends dearly departed?

Well no…

Like the tour laminates I gave away earlier this year, money cannot replace them.

So guess what?

I want to give the tour books away.

No more writing competitions though.

This time I want hard cash!

I have registered with http://buyoncegivetwice.com and will be running an auction for items to benefit my charity of choice, the Autism Research Centre here in Cambridge, England.

Details of that next week.

Without further adieu, I am packing my virtual bags and leave you in the capable hands of my guest bloggers.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

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It is with great pleasure that I am announcing the book I started on March 19th is complete and you can download the eBook free here:

http://masteringtheimpossible.logicofattraction.com

You can also buy a physical copy online from the same place.

It will be available on Amazon in 6-8 weeks at which point the ISBN number will be catalogued and you will also be able to order it from your local library.

If you are getting value from this blog, please order my other book The Logic Of Attraction from your library now (see Friday’s post for details).

Or you could even buy it…

To quote Stephen King: “Books are the perfect entertainment: no commercials, no batteries, hours of enjoyment for each dollar spent. What I wonder is why everybody doesn’t carry a book around for those inevitable dead spots in life.”

What you will notice about my books is, the size has been chosen with your pocket in mind. Let me fill your dead spots with thought and understanding.

Aside from books, I am putting together something special for later this week.

I recently read about blog tours.

The idea is to visit other people’s blogs and write a post.

And of course, because of the way I process things, I wondered – what if it were to work the other way around?

I have my two older children visiting next week and would like to take a week off, however I would still like to provide you with daily content.

Having worked in the music industry touring for twenty years, I have a lot of experience with real life tours.

I have also worked in a lot of rock venues.

So it struck me, bands don’t always tour.

They play one off shows as well.

I have invited writers from some of my favourite blogs to “play” for one night only at my exclusive venue, I’ll be the sound engineer so to speak, by publishing their post to my blog.

Among the invited are Amy Flynn, Joe Vitale, Mr2020, Reine, Simon Le Bon, Todd Silva and Wendy Young.

And you may even end up subscribing to their blogs too, who knows.

See you on the other side of the looking glass,

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